Return to the Village

Growing more disgusted each day with the world in which our children live, I have created this blog as means of sharing my frustations, disappointments, and joys with a world gone crazy. The majority of my musings will be about growing up in an era when the "The Village" did raise the child.

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Tuesday, December 01, 2009

Update

This post has been over three years in the making. On September 6, 2006 my world collapsed and I felt that I was sinking fast in quicksand with no way out, you see that is the day that my mother passed. I had always thought that we would have longer with her, but that was not to be and it has taken me over three years to get to the point where I can rationally talk about it. My father died when I was in my teens and to be honest it hurt, but I had Momma and she made it all better.

In the days, weeks, or months to come, I will periodically relate a story about her life and some of the stories that she told me. I know that being a child raised by the "Village" I can go do what I have to do to make sure that it continues by sharing other stories about growing up and living in Southwest Georgia.

Thanks for visiting.

Romaine

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Sunday, July 09, 2006

Disappointment & Joy

Last week was not a good week for me. I had been told that I had a job teaching on Monday and on Friday morning found out that, No! I didn't get the job. It was a stressful time and yes, I was very disappointed, I felt like crying, but I decided that life goes on, and maybe this wasn't my blessing . It seemed that I had been preparing for this job all my life, but, now I see that old saying of, "never counting your chickens before they hatch" has merit.

Well, on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, I had some really good moments in my life. On Tuesday, my family (mother, sisters, nieces, nephew, and brother-in-law) went to the Veteran's Park at Lake Blackshear in Cordele, Georgia (a 9000 acre lake) and what a time we had, the kids were playing in the water from the time we got there until we left, and in the area where we set up, the entire area was populated with people from Dawson, Georgia. My brother-in-law got up at 3am that morning and cooked the meats, my sister made potato salad and we took chips and drinks. All we did when we got to the lake was sit back and relax. The weather was really pleasant, so I placed my chair between two trees and did not have to move to follow the shade at all, I even got so relaxed that I took out my MP3 player and listened to some smooth sounds as the gentle breeze caressed my wounded mind and tired soul.

On Friday of the week before, I had sent a letter to someone living in Virginia, trying to locate a very good friend from my days in the Army that I had lost touch with about 10 years ago. And on Wednesday, while checking my email, I saw a subject with my friend's name. I was so amazed and overjoyed, that I had to call her immediately, but she had company, so I agreed to call her within an hour, well, she couldn't wait because she called me back and we were on the phone for over an hour. Oh we spent quite a bit of time catching up and reliving those days gone by. Just thinking about some of the things we did, brings a smile to my face even now. I vowed to her that I would always keep in touch and this is one promise that I plan to keep.

Well, my other best friend from my Army days called me on Thursday and we talked for a while. My wounded spirit was beginning to heal. My mantra is it takes a village to raise a child, well; it also takes a village to keep one's spirit and soul healthy. I have not seen either of my friends in over 20 years, but my heart feels no less love for them as if I just left them both yesterday. Sometimes in life, you cross paths with people and they have a profound effect upon your life. You love them for life and they become a part of your family and your village. The joy that these two friends have brought me has been enormous; the impact upon my life has been deep in ways in which you wouldn’t imagine.

And then on Friday, another friend called to check on me and we were on the phone for hours and kept telling each other bye. This friend I have never had the opportunity to meet in person, but I feel as if I have known her all my life.

My village is a circle, and in a circle there is no ending, just a continuous link. And although my circle has no ending, it can expand, and it has. In order to receive blessings, you have to be open to receiving them and my friends and family are my blessings and I am glad that God has given me the intelligence to realize it.

Shout Outs to: Marcia, Cassandra, & Miriam.


Return to the village!

Monday, June 26, 2006

Grandfathers

Yesterday I finished reading a book that I had purchased from a public library's Book Sale Bin. I purchased the book because of the title and the picture, the title of the book is "LeRoy and The Old Man" by W.E. Butterworth and the picture is of a young black male and an older black man. I read the synopsis on the back of the book and was hooked. I began this book Friday night and finished it Sunday morning.

My feeling as I began to read the book was instant affection for "The Old Man." He reminded me of a time and place that I wish we could go back to while keeping most modern technologies. He reminded me of my grandfather, not the grandfather of my adulthood, but the one of my youth. The one that could do no wrong could slay every dragon and demon imaginable with one mighty blow.

This was the same Granddaddy, that when he died at his funereal I got up and spoke about him, and when I mentioned a little song he used to sing as he bounced me on his knee, my sisters and cousins, all began to recite the same song, (“Granddaddy, granddaddy where you been, round the world and back again.”) because he did it with us all. I can remember it just as plain as if it happened yesterday, I had to have been about four or five (maybe younger) and he lived in the wooden house on the hill.

Oh what a glorious time we had, my cousins and my sisters and I, as we jumped and played in the big ditch in front of his house. I don't know why we weren't bitten by snakes, because we never looked, we just jumped and played. I still see my mother and her sisters sitting watching us having the time of our lives in that same old ditch. I thought that this ditch was as deep as the deepest ravine, but now looking back, it wasn't deep at all, only in the imagination of children. Oh what a carefree time!

Back then, life was simple and neighbors were friends and looked out for each other and their children. During this time, the Village did raise the child. And in this book it is so evident what time has forgotten. LeRoy's grandfather is a man of honor. He works hard and is respected by everyone. What LeRoy finds amazing (one of many things actually) is that his grandfather is respected by a white sheriff and an Austrian chef in a small Mississippi town. LeRoy has left Chicago because he is a witness to a mugging that turns into murder. His mother sends him to the grandfather he has never meet in a small Mississippi town not far from New Orleans.

Imagine LeRoy's surprise when he finds that he actually likes the life he makes with his grandfather, and see how he treats the father that abandoned him and his mother when he comes to help him. The lessons LeRoy learns in this book are inspiring, as I read this book, I was thinking of ways to incorporate it in my "Back to the Village" movement.

I feel sorry for the children today who are forced to grow up too soon without the carefree days of years gone by. Will they have memories of lazy days spent just watching grasshoppers or eating sour grass, drinking nectar from honeysuckles or going from house to house asking to pick plums from neighbors trees? No! I don't think so, these days are lost. We really need to "Return to the Village!"

Sunday, June 04, 2006

Welcome to "Return to the Village"



Hello! Thanks for taking the time to listen to my views. I am the first member (that I know of) in a "Back to the Village Movement! I think that we, Black Americans, have lost our sense of "Village Life" and feel that it is time for us to once again embrace the village. A lot of our problems stem from us not looking out for one another, talking with each other, and wanting our neighbors and friends to succeed.

I look at who suffers the most and any casual observer of the Black Culture in America today can attest to the fractured society in which most of us choose to live. We are more concerned with "The Best" (wearing the best clothes, driving the best car, wearing the best jewelry), while we are not investing as much attention where it really needs to be; which to me, is on our children, after all, they are our future.

I am going to use this blog to discuss my views on this matter, and although I am not a professional sociologist, anthropologist, or African American or Black historian, I am a concerned Black member of society who is has an honest concern for the future of blacks living in America.

I look forward to discussing some interesting and crucial topics in the life of Black Americans living in the United States or America (Canada & Mexico). And if you haven't figured it out yet, I prefer being considered Black because it means Proud, and I am Black and Proud. Oh yeah, I love people in general, people watching is one of my favorite pastimes and talking with people of different ethic backgrounds and cultures is high on my list of interests as well, but, Black Culture & History is my passion.

Romaine